You may have noticed I sometimes find it handy to stick additional bits of information at the end of a post with Oh, Just One Last Thing.
Sometimes the last bit is directly related to the topic of the day. Other times, it’s just one more thing I have in mind to say.
I’m engaging in the long Italian goodbye. I’ll explain.
During that first Christmas trip to Italy with my new boyfriend Lorenzo, there was one Italian trait that stood out – The long goodbye.
Here’s the scene:
We’ve just finished a lovely dinner party with friends of Lorenzo. There has been MUCH talking and discussion and argument over the course of the evening. It is late, the party is winding down, and people are leaving. Lorenzo and I put on our heavy winter coats – we lived in Chicago at the time – and walk to the front door with our hosts. But instead of saying our thanks and leaving, what happens?
A whole new conversation starts, one that promises to go on for some time. It may be something that has already been discussed at length during the evening, where the earlier conversation is rehashed. Or it may be an entirely new topic. But there we are, standing and sweating in our heavy winter coats, talking.
Particularly in those early days when I did not yet understand Italian, those long goodbyes could be painful as my boots started pinching my toes and I became overheated under the coat. I wondered why we didn’t just go back in the apartment, and make ourselves comfortable by sitting down and removing our coats. But no, that never happened.
We just kept standing, and sweating, and talking.
I imagine the ladies in the featured photograph above have spent the day shopping in central Turin. They have lingered over a late lunch together at one of the elegant cafés in Piazza San Carlo. They are now saying goodbye before heading home. If we had a time-lapse camera shot, I bet that in another 30 minutes, they’d still be there, their shoulders dropping under the weight of the bags, their feet stomping to get feeling in the cold. A small price to pay as they say their goodbyes.
Over the years, I’ve come to enjoy and engage in the long goodbye. So I hope you will indulge me when I ask for just a little more of your attention when I’m about to close. There are always so many more things to say…
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Until next time, alla prossima volta, A. S. Furbetta
For More Information
For a very funny take on the long goodbye in France, read The Two Hour Goodbye by the author (and pastry chef) David Lebovitz.
The Postcard of Torino features Piazza San Carlo, designed by Carlo di Castellamonte in 1642 and completed in 1650. In the middle of the piazza is the equestrian statue of Emanuele Filiberto (known as “El Caval èd brons”), sculpted by Carlo Marocchetti in 1838. The porticoed buildings surrounding the piazza are filled with bars, cafes, and restaurants, including Caffè San Carlo, which opened in 1842, Caffè Torino (1903), Caffè Neuv Caval ‘d Brons (1948), and the patisserie Fratelli Stratta, with original furnishings of 1836. If you can still look at food, stop by the gourmet counter of Paissa, founded in 1884 (and supplier to the court of Savoy).
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Postcard of Torino
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